Part of my spiritual resolution is to have a daily devotional–1 hour with God, in whatever form that means. Prayer, scripture study, meditation, personal journaling, scripture journaling. When I take this time, I feel an increase in confidence and spiritual power. Life still happens, but it becomes one of empowerment, peace, and gratitude.
The Stay family tragedy has hit way too close to home. The family lived not more than 15 minutes away from us and we have several friends who are intimately involved with the family. We knew the grandmother and the hurt and shock of what has transpired has left all of us feeling a bit raw.
So many feelings and thoughts run through my head while writing this post. The temporary nature of life. Family. Miracles. Angels. God and His infinite love and mercy for every single one of his children. Friends in the media and publishing world tell me they are getting requests for interviews from all over the world, requesting access to family, funeral, first responders. To date the media has been immensely respectful to the family and to the survivors.
For some this tragedy may trigger a pause in belief. For me it has done the opposite. As I have read accounts of angels surrounding Cassidy, covering her mouth, coaching her on exactly what to do my soul hungrily soaks in those accounts. No matter what our circumstance we are never alone. Cassidy was not alone.
I believe in angels. I believe in the tender mercies of God. I believe in miracles and the trust that everything can and will work out for our own good. As the grandfather has stated, the surviving family members have no idea how they will move on but for now they will focus on the living.
Between email, Facebook, and everything else, we live in a world that can seem crowded.
But even with so much going on, do you ever feel a little lonely?
I’m here to tell you: you are not alone.
. . . what matters most in friendship is feeling understood and accepted, just the way you are.
And that can help you out in times of loneliness.
It’s something that I learned years ago that literally changed my life.
I thought, “Carol, you are always going to be with yourself—always. You might as well learn to become your own best friend.”
I was the one person who was always going to be with me, so I might as well be a little friendlier to myself!
Next time you’re feeling lonely, take a moment to understand, accept, and just love yourself.
I’ll tell you what happens when you do…
You’ll speak more kindly to yourself. You’ll see the best in yourself. You’ll be more encouraging about your dreams. You’ll spend some quality time with yourself, doing what you want most. You’ll be more willing to laugh with yourself.
Here’s the big benefit to trying this:
In your process of becoming your own best friend, other people will be drawn to you because you inspire them to be themselves.
Next time you’re feeling lonely, be friendlier to yourself for a while.
And then reach out. You may be surprised who else wants friendship, too.
Here’s to being friends to ourselves—remarkable and amazing women who are making a difference in the world.
Will we respond with love when an opportunity is before us to make a visit or a phone call, write a note, or spend a day meeting the needs of someone else? Or will we be like the young man who attested to following all of God’s commandments:
“All these things have I kept from my youth up: what lack I yet?
“Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.”3
The young man was being called to a greater service at the side of the Lord to do the work of the kingdom of God on earth, yet he turned away, “for he had great possessions.”4
What of our earthly possessions? … It is so important for each of us to strive to lay up our spiritual treasures in heaven—using our time, talents, and agency in service to God.
We are surrounded by those in need of our attention, our encouragement, our support, our comfort, our kindness—be they family members, friends, acquaintances, or strangers. We are the Lord’s hands here upon the earth, with the mandate to serve and to lift His children. He is dependent upon each of us. …
“‘… Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these … , ye have done it unto me’ [Matthew 25:40].”
Thomas S. Monson, “What Have I Done for Someone Today?” Ensignor Liahona, Nov. 2009, 86, 87.
“So here we have the burden of those called to bear the messianic message. In addition to teaching, encouraging, and cheering people on (that is the pleasant part of discipleship), from time to time these same messengers are called upon to worry, to warn, and sometimes just to weep (that is the painful part of discipleship). They know full well that the road leading to the promised land ‘flowing with milk and honey’ of necessity runs by way of Mount Sinai, flowing with ‘thou shalts’ and ‘thou shalt nots.'”
The Cost—and Blessings—of Discipleship BY ELDER JEFFREY R. HOLLAND Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles